“My dad is 70 years old and becomes stubborn. When I want to help him he answers in an annoying tone: I can do it by myself. I´m still strong, don’t treat me like a child. But, I just want to help him and I don’t know how to treat him.” (Elena, 45 years old)

Not all older adults have the same attitude towards life. We see ones smiling, other reserved and those who feel they are a “burden” for their children. To avoid this situation, it is important to know what care should be taken with them. Probably you are wondering how to deal with it or what guidelines you should follow, but relax, take it easy! Psychologist Mary Castro will help you

Medical and psychological examination

Take your father to the doctor to see how his health is. This will help you to know how to take care of him. If possible, also take him to the psychologist to assess his mood. This is very valuable information

Set guidelines

When your father is out of home, bring your family members together and ask them to be patient. That will also be the right time for you to include new coexistence guidelines and tips for treating your aged father

Avoid over-protection

It is okay to worry about your “old dad”, but without exaggerating. Do not treat him as a person who cannot fend for himself. If you do, he will obviously think he is a “burden” or “nuisance”. Let him do certain activities, depending on his physical condition

Encourage him to go outside

Don’t let him be home alone all day. Invite him, for example, to walk to the park and ask him to tell you his stories. Convervations keep his brain active and allow him to participate in family activities

Lic. Mary Castro
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma