January 25, 2023
Regarding Shakira’s new song, many people have related it as an action of spite by the singer, however, it is a normal process in love breakups.
The Colombian singer, Shakira released her latest song “BZRP Music Sessions #53” a few weeks ago and social networks were no strangers to it. Many commented that the singer was “disgusted” for expressing phrases such as “Women don’t cry anymore, they cash in”, “So much that you gave yourself as a champion and when I needed you, you gave your worst version”, ” A she-wolf like me is not for rookies, a she-wolf like me is not for guys like you”. Given this, Antonella Galli, a psychologist at Clinica Ricardo Palma, spoke with Bienestar from the El Comercio newspaper, who explained to us the reason why people act like this after a breakup.
“Acting out of spite is acting negatively in the face of an event that has hurt the person. In this case, Shakira ended her relationship and is going through a situation of mourning, she had the loss of her partner with whom she had children and there are many emotions involved, which is why she mentions those phrases in her song,” explains the specialist.
Stages of a love breakup:
People go through a love breakup process in which spite may be present. Like Shakira, this process is not easy to bear, since there are three stages in a love break:
“When there is spite, it does not mean that they will perpetuate eternal negative feelings towards the former partner, it is something momentary that over time will pass, he or she will process what has happened, lived and will begin to heal his/her wounds,” adds Galli.
Tips to avoid acting out of spite
At this time, it is difficult to recognize what we should do to feel better, because if we continue to act out of spite, situations may occur that we may later regret. Therefore, we must take into account the following recommendations:
Dr. Antonella Galli
Psychologist at Clinica Ricardo Palma