Fights between separated couples are pretty frequent, specially when they have children. Causes can be different, depending on how the couple broke up and how each one behaves in relation to their responsibilities as parents. However, the couples’ psychotherapist Antonella Galli says, that, no matter how big is the boost, mom and dad should not unleash their rage in front on the children. “They need to know that although their parents are no longer together, they can be friends”, says the expert, that offers the following advice to improve the relationship with your “ex”

• Being kind. Every time you see your ex, show respect, say hi and threat him/her with education. Your child will feel better and with good self-teem
• Establish rules. Organize and respect the rules of coexistence with the father or mother of your child. For example: pay child support, keep the visits and pick up your child as agreed. Otherwise, your child will suffer
• Do not speak badly of him or her in front of your child. This will create confusion and discomfort for your child; he or she could even feel guilty for the separation
• Forgiving does not mean forgetting, but it does mean to turn the page respectfully. That will help your child to live peacefully
• Schedule activities. If you have a good relationship with your ex, go out together as a family. Doing so will teach your child that mom and dad can also be great friends

Antonella Galli
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma