Nowadays, more couples decide to continue living together after ending their love relationship, despite clarifying that there are no feelings involved. Several factors are believed to influence the making of this decision, since not all relationships are maintained for the same reasons. On this occasion, the psychologist Carmen Bravo de Rueda, from Clinica Ricardo Palma, provides us with more information on the subject.

Factors involved in coexistence after a breakup

Among the most important factors that make people live together after a breakup are:

• Economy. After a separation, the couple would each live on their own, assuming only economic responsibilities that were previously shared
• Children. Both decide that for their sake it is better that they see their parents together, creating a false image of reality
• Emotional dependence. It is a psychological state that occurs between friendship, family or love relationships. As its name implies, people depend a lot on others, to the point of not being able to make decisions for themselves.

How to identify a relationship due to emotional dependence?

In a relationship, love can end, however, there are other characteristics that make the bond between them continue. These are respect, friendship, admiration, among others. Therefore, if none of these factors is present in a relationship, whether dating or marriage, it would be a bond developed by emotional dependence. In addition, the fact of being next to another person just for not supporting loneliness, will be an impediment to meet or relate to someone else.

Remember: It is important to identify the problems that can be worked on to strengthen the relationship and which ones should not be overlooked, because the difficult thing will be when situations arise that significantly affect the other person. On the other hand, our specialist mentions that communication is key to defining the course of the relationship; That is why one way to solve these problems, or at least try, are couples therapy, where they will be able to recognize the existing shortcomings and have the possibility of working on them.

Carmen Bravo de Rueda
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma