‘Breadcrumbing or emotional crumbs is the practice of sending ambiguous and sporadic signals or messages on social networks to keep someone interested without a genuine intention to get involved in a meaningful way,’ explains Alexandra Sabal, a psychologist at our clinic, who provides us with more information on this topic.

How to recognize breadcrumbing and how does it impact the sufferer?

• Breadcrumbing sufferers often experience confusion, anxiety, frustration and low self-esteem. Constantly waiting to ‘see what happens’ leads to a high level of emotional exhaustion and stress, as there is no clarity about the other person’s intentions.
• Breadcrumbing is characterized by inconsistent communication on social networks. The person appears and disappears without explanation, shows interest in appointments that never materialize or are cancelled at the last minute, maintaining a permanent flirtation, but without deep conversations. This can generate uncertainty and affect the emotional health of the person experiencing it.

Keys for overcoming breadcrumbing

This experience can be very painful, but overcoming breadcrumbing strengthens self-esteem and helps develop healthier relationships. Put these tips into practice:

• Be direct and clear. About what you want.
• Set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to walk away if you feel hurt or unappreciated.
• Don’t expect the other person to change. Accept that the relationship probably won’t become more meaningful.
• Prioritize your well-being. Lack of commitment can lead to a permanent sense of frustration.
• Apply self-care. Inconsistent signals can make you doubt yourself and affect your self-esteem.

Remember:

Breadcrumbing can be a very painful experience, don’t ignore the warning signs, recognize your values and reflect on what you are really looking for in a relationship and how you can develop healthy emotional bonds. If necessary, seek professional support to overcome this experience.

Alexandra Sabal
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma