The ways of relating affectively and socially are changing a lot. Gone are the years when happiness was linked to having a partner, getting married and starting a family. Mary Castro, a psychologist at our clinic, explains what agamy is and why it is an increasingly common trend among young people, who value their independence and reject traditional romantic conventions.

What is agamy and why is it becoming more popular?

• Rejection of traditional romantic bonds. Agamy is defined as the choice not to develop romantic attachments. People who practice agamy prioritize their freedom, enjoy their lives with friends, loved ones and family, and do not seek conventional romantic relationships. This lifestyle is a response to the social pressure imposed by the need to form couples or get married and is associated with a criticism of the limitations that marriage can generate in some people.
• Autonomy and happiness. Unlike what many might think, agamic people have not necessarily suffered disappointment in love. They simply prefer not to be in a romantic relationship because they are happy being alone. They do not seek social validation through a partner, and they value the ability to live without the responsibilities that a traditional union brings.

Agamy is neither inherently good nor inherently bad. If someone finds fulfillment and happiness living without a romantic relationship, this decision may be completely valid. However, if someone longs to be in a relationship but feels pressured to pursue this lifestyle, they may experience frustration. Therefore, it is essential for each person to reflect on his or her own desires and emotional needs.

Why can agamy be seen as positive?

• Emotional independence. Agamic people enjoy their lives without being emotionally dependent on a partner. For them, human connections do not necessarily need to be romantic to be meaningful. They focus on their personal development, maintaining strong ties with friends and family.
• No social pressure. Agamy allows those who practice it to live without following the rules imposed by society, which gives them greater freedom to make decisions about their affective and social life.

Remember:

Agamy is a valid option for those who choose to live without a partner and prioritize their independence. It is important to respect and understand that each person has his or her own path to happiness, whether in or out of a romantic relationship.

Mary Castro
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma